After being flooded with the "choices in birth" message (which is a great message!) this last 18 months as I have become a doula and CBE, I had forgotten that it was just as much (if not more) about the SKILLS that I had learned and used during my birth with Kyla than it was about the choices I had made that made it a positive experience. It was Kyla's wonderful birth that had led me into this field. This all came back to me as I read/watched the Pink Kit materials.
In the Birthing Better Pink Kit, there’s not a lot of “information.” You can find childbirth information in most childbirth books. When you attend your childbirth class, often called childbirth education or childbirth preparation, you will be given a great deal of information, education, and knowledge which is vitally important in order to make your Birth Plans, exercise your choices, and learn about the process of labor, Caesarean delivery, pain relief, and newborn care. But there is little specific childbirth preparation except making a Birth Plan. Where are the skills? The Pink Kit is FULL of childbirth skills.
Your Pink Kit connects your pregnancy with
- preparing the pregnant body to give birth and let out a very large object.
- learning skills as both mothers- and fathers-to-be so that you will work with your baby’s efforts to be born.
The one thing you can know about birth is that yours is going to happen. Being pregnant means you are 100% guaranteed to do this activity. The Pink Kit gives you the skills to work together (along with your partner) so that is is a positive activity for all. That is why you must practice these skills until they become default behaviors for when you are ready to give birth, regardless of what type of birth you have.
Childbirth is an activity, which means you have to take actions. Skills are how you do the actions. Your strength, your sense of control, during the whole birthing process will always lie in your ability to use your skills to create actions and respond to your baby’s actions and other factors. Actions based on a good foundation of skills can be adapted in the moment to suit any situation. This means you can feel great about your management abilities even if the events are less than perfect or if you don’t like a single minute of the experience.
My personal encounter with birth skills:
My first birth with Keanan was not a good experience. I remained curled up on the hospital bed dreading each coming contraction. It was long and horrible. With Kyla I knew that I needed to do SOMETHING to prepare. So I practiced relaxing and breathing methods from a book I borrowed from a friend. I also practiced some positions from another book. Zac reluctantly did some of these practice sessions with me. This labor was night and day to my previous one. Besides being aware of my choices (which I also self learned) I had a few skills to help with the intensity. I stayed upright the entire time, never made it to the hospital bed. Kyla was born on the birth stool after 2 pushes and 1/2 the labor time as my son. I was so happy with this experience. And Zac felt like he was an active participant - he was very grateful for our practice sessions. I used only two of the many skills that parents can learn from the Pink Kit, and it made all the difference in the world. Why didn't anyone tell me about this for my first birth?
The Pink Kit helps you prepare for birth by guiding you in becoming familiar with your body. You and your partner "map your pelvis" which aides in determining which positions/movements are best for you - everyone is a little bit different. There is also an audio CD titled "The Internal Work" which gives you and your partner exercises to do daily (after 32 weeks) to help minimize trauma to your birth canal. There are breathing skills, communication skills, skills for relaxation, skills for working with your bony and "soft" pelvis - the list goes on! This resource is designed to be started any where after 24 weeks - giving you plenty of time to learn and practice these valuable skills.
What I love about the Pink Kit is that there is no birth philosophy connected to it, unlike all other childbirth"methods". It provides ALL women with valuable birth skills. Epidural/medicated, "natural", VBAC, or caesarean births - it doesn't matter. The Pink Kit is for ALL types of birth.
I also love how the Pink Kit is just as much for dads/partners as it is for the expecting moms! Partners can feel prepared and confident in knowing they can actually support the moms, beyond giving them water and an occasional back rub. The Pink Kit FULL of wonderful birth stories showing how couples used their skills and worked together for an amazing birth.
Don't let birth " just happen" to you - be prepared with skills for any situation. Birth is what you do, being born is what your baby does. Do this together with skills from the Pink Kit.
You can read more on The Pink Kit Page of my website. I am now partnering with Common Knowledge Trust (creators of The Pink Kit) as an affiliate, working to bring the director to Tacoma to speak, and possibly more. Please pray for God's wisdom and perfect timing in all of this.
This is a movement - creating a skilled birthing population! I want to spread the word about this awesome resource and will be offering it to all my doula clients - others can buy it from my website =)